How to Find a Unicorn: A Guide for Couples

Start with what you both want

Talk it through together before you message anyone. Is this a one-off adventure, regular fun or something more committed? What are your boundaries, and what happens if one of you changes your mind? Couples who agree this first find it much easier to be clear with others.

Look where unicorns are looking

A unicorn is far more likely to say yes on a site built for couples and singles who are open to this. You skip the awkward explanations and find people who already know what they want. On Unicorn Finder, couples are actively looking for unicorns, and around three in four members are couples, so a single unicorn gets plenty of attention.

Write a profile that attracts the right person

• Be upfront: say what you are looking for, what you are open to and where your limits are.
• Be honest: use recent photos that show you as you are.
• Say what you offer: a unicorn wants to know what you are like as people, not only what you want.
• Do it together: a profile that both of you wrote reads as a real couple.

Say hello well

Mention something from their profile, keep it friendly, and do not ask for photos or a meeting in the first message. Take a “no” or a silence as the answer, and move on.

Take your time

Chat first. Get a feel for each other before you meet, and do not feel rushed by anyone. When you do meet, pick a public place for a drink or dinner. Our location pages list popular spots for dinner, drinks and live music in ten states. Tell a friend where you will be.

Find people near you

Browse couples and singles state by state on our Locations page. Members with a VIP membership can also search by city, distance, experience level and what people are open to.

Common mistakes

• Rushing to meet before you have talked.
• Treating a unicorn as an extra rather than a person with their own wishes.
• Leaving boundaries unspoken until something goes wrong.
• Not telling each other when something feels off. Either of you can stop at any point.