Thinking of Joining a Couple? A Guide for Single Women

Start with what you want

Ask yourself why you are interested. Are you curious, after a fun night, or looking for something regular or longer-term? There is no right answer. Knowing yours makes it easier to say it clearly, and to find a couple who wants the same.

You are in control

You decide who you talk to, what you do and when. You can say no at any point, and you can change your mind after saying yes. A good couple will respect that without making you explain.

What a respectful couple looks like

• Both of them talk to you. You are getting to know two people, not one person and a quiet partner.
• They are clear about boundaries. They can tell you what they are comfortable with and what is off the table.
• They do not rush you. They are happy to chat for as long as you like before you meet.
• They treat you as a person. You are not an extra, and your wishes count as much as theirs.
• Their profile is honest. Recent photos, and details that match what they tell you.

Red flags

• Pushing to meet quickly.
• Only one partner ever replies.
• Vague answers about boundaries or what they want.
• Pressure after you have said no.
• Asking for money or private details such as your address or workplace.

If something feels off, you can stop talking. You do not owe an explanation.

Questions worth asking

• What are you looking for, and have you done this before?
• What are your boundaries, and what happens if one of you feels uncomfortable?
• How do you both feel about protection and sexual health?
• How will we stay in touch afterwards, whatever happens?

A couple who answers calmly and openly is a good sign.

Take it slowly

Chat first, for as long as you like. When you are ready to meet, choose a public place, meet both partners, tell a friend where you will be and arrange your own way home. Our location pages list popular spots for dinner, drinks and live music in ten states. You can leave at any time.

Keep your privacy

You control everything on your profile. Share only what you are comfortable sharing, and use photos you are happy with. Look for the ID verified badge on members’ profiles. ID verification is free on Unicorn Finder, and if you would rather not share ID, our team can review and approve your profile instead. We never display members’ personal details or share your information with third parties, and our support team is available 24/7.

Why Unicorn Finder suits single women

• Couples are looking for you. Around three in four members are couples, and they joined to meet someone like you.
• Free to join. Create your profile, browse and get daily matches without paying. Free members can also read and reply to messages from VIP members.
• Discreet. A paid membership appears on your bank statement as a non-descript transaction.
• Your pace. Whether it is a one-off adventure, regular fun or a committed partnership, you set the pace.